I’m struggling at the minute. I’m struggling with a lot of things. I’m struggling with the fact it’s 2017 and we still need an International Women’s Day.

We literally make up 50% of the planet. And we still need a day to highlight our achievements.

I want to live in a world – to be honest, I’ll settle for country – I want to live in a country where I don’t need a ‘day’. Aside from my birthday. I’m keeping that.

I don’t want to buy a book on women’s achievements. I don’t want there to be a need for a fucking book. I just want there to be a book on amazing human’s achievements.

 

I see Instagram posts like “Women are strong as hell”. What’s the need? It’s stating the obvious. Who are you trying to tell? Women? We know this! Men? They’re not going to listen to an Instagram post. The nice men already know and appreciate how strong we are, the shit ones aren’t going to be influenced by words on a graphic of some social media account they don’t even follow.

It looks weak. Women are still asking permission. “Please treat us as equal. Please”. Why are you asking men to treat you as equal? By asking them, you’re accepting you’re not. I know I’m fucking equal.

And I don’t mean in a direct comparison of strength, or speed. I mean in worth. I am worth just as much as any man. I’m not asking anyone for permission to treat me as equal.

 

I will do what I like, when I like, and I will do it with integrity and passion and honesty and truth.

I don’t hate men. I don’t have bitterness towards them. I don’t understand women, feminists, who are. I don’t understand how you can hate men and want equality. That’s like the KKK being upset that black people don’t like them. It doesn’t work.

 

They are not aliens. They are people. Like I am a person. You’re a person.

 

I am a feminist. I believe feminism means equality. Equal rights. Equal rights for all genders, all races, all sexualities. Any two people with the same experience and skills in the same job should be paid the same. Any two people in a loving, consensual relationship should be able to get married. Any two people suffering with deep sadness in their lives should be able to cry. Any two people should be able to take time off their jobs to look after their baby, without impacting on their career.

 

We are 50% of this world and we need to start believing in it. And for fucksake stop asking for permission.

Last month footballer Ched Evans was released from prison after serving his sentence for raping a teenager. Well, by serving his sentence what they actually mean is serving a couple of years. Since then there has been uproar about whether or not he should go back to his privileged life as a footballer.

His victim has had to change her name twice, due to further abuse and ‘trolling’. Of course, she is a slag, who should not have allowed herself to get in that state. And poor Ched Evans has had a terrible time, what with going through a court case and having the threat of losing his job hung over his head.

When did we get so sympathetic of rapists? Would it be less forgivable if she wasn’t drunk? Should a punishment for being drunk be rape? Is this what we’re getting at? I’ve been paralytic at parties before, and my friends just put me to bed, on my side, with a sick bucket next to me. Was this incorrect of them? Should I have been given a good old raping instead, as a lesson to not get that hammered again?

More and more celebrities and sports stars are voicing their disdain at the idea of Ched Evans regaining a career at Sheffield Utd., most recently Jessica Ennis who said she would remove her name from her stand at Bramall Lane, stating, “Those in positions of influence should respect the role they play in young people’s lives and set a good example…If Evans was to be re-signed by the club it would completely contradict these beliefs.”

On social media she has been accused of “band-wagon jumping”. One shocking comment in particular on the Channel 4 News Facebook page read The man has paid for what he has done. So why does he need to be punished again? Just because the feminist party is on tour again?

Am I naïve in thinking that everybody believes, or should believe that rape is unacceptable? Generally I thought that everyone thought to enforce your dominance on another human in this primal and animalistic manner was a big no-no. We have evolved quite a bit since we were apes, we’ve had about 600,000 years to do so. We learnt the power of speech. And, as these hugely evolved creatures that we are, all being able to speak and such, we are aware when someone says no. And what that means. We are also aware that if someone is unable to communicate, then they need looking after, rather than taking advantage of.

I’m going to make it really clear. It doesn’t matter what she’s wearing, if she’s drunk, or if she was flirting with you earlier on that night – unless you have her permission, you do not touch her. She is not yours to touch.

If we as women should know better, then maybe so should the men that rape.